Dangers of Online Dating
“The heart wants what it wants. There’s no logic to these things. You meet someone and you fall in love and that’s that.”
— Woody Allen
We all, at some point in our lives, will look for love…. companionship…. that soul mate. While the prospects of our journey to finding Mr./Ms. Right can be exciting and elating, that road can often times be perilous. For a variety of reasons, today many romance seekers turn to technology in the form of on-line dating sites to help find a mate. While many on-line sites are perfectly legit, there are some real hazards inherent with meeting someone over the internet.
Dr. Ellen Kriedman (also known as Dr. Ellen) says online dating is an advantage for people who are uncomfortable about meeting people in public places, or who are new to an area. Online dating services also can be a good option if you frequently travel for work or have children or other responsibilities that make going out to meet people difficult.
What’s more, you’re not confined to the area where you live. You can search the world, since you have international access via the Internet.
And you can meet people without fear of commitment. Online dating services provide chat rooms that allow you to get to know someone before you exchange photos or phone numbers.
In addition, most sites allow the user to place a photo along with a personal ad, and some even have audio capability so you can listen to your potential soul mate’s voice. While this may sound a bit superficial at first, Internet dating actually takes the whole “meat market” aspect out of the dating process because it allows you to weed out the players.
With so many online dating services out there, picking one can be difficult. Dr. Ellen advises people to do their homework. Shop around until you find one that best suits your particular needs. Narrow your search by looking at services that specialize in matching people with similar interests. For example, you might consider a dating service for people who share the same religious faith, like BigChurch.com, ChristianCafe.com or JDate.com; if you’re a sports enthusiast, you might check out fitness-singles.com. The list goes on …
While e-dating is a dream come true for some, The Rules Girls warn that an e-courtship has more dating hazards than ever — and they’re not what you think! Whether you meet online, at work, or in a bar, email has become an integral part of most relationships, so you need to be prepared to handle a cyber relationship https://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/dating/risks-and-rewards-of-online-dating.htm
There are also possible dangers with the on-line dating scene…some even deadly,
The potential dangers of online dating have come into sharp focus following the case of Jason Lawrence, who raped five women and attacked two more after meeting them on Match.com.
The 50-year-old, who contacted thousands of women on the website, including his victims, was jailed for life over the attacks
Jurors in the case heard Match.com had failed to remove the attacker’s profile despite four complaints, leading the judge to call on dating apps to increase security.
But despite the potential risks, two experts in the field say there is no need to shy away from online dating as long as precautions are taken.
Nick Tsinonis, co-founder of Scamalytics, which creates software designed to prevent scammers from targeting people on online dating sites, offered a range of advice as to how to stay safe while interacting with a prospective date online.
1) Keep chats restricted to the website or app
“It’s really important to keep all dialogue restricted to the messaging services on the website. If you keep conversations strictly on the site scammers are unlikely to target you, because they know the dating site will detect their behaviour.”
2) Block anyone suspicious
“On the dating site users’ behavior can be monitored, so if someone becomes abusive or inappropriate, the site can respond accordingly. You also have the ability to block someone on a dating site messaging system.”
3) Take time to get to know someone before meeting
“When you meet someone you can quickly feel like you know them really well, because it’s often easier to connect in writing and to read more into the written word than the spoken word. This can mean you rush into things, and relationships may move quicker than you expect.
“Always bear in mind that the other person is a stranger. Take your time to really get to know someone, and ensure he or she is who they say they are.”
4) Ask a friend for advice and their opinion
“If you even get a gut feeling that something is not quite right, ask a friend for advice and their opinion. Sometimes our mind can trick us into thinking we’ve met the perfect match when in fact we are being conned by a scam-artist.”
5) Research them online
“Don’t be afraid to research someone you meet online. Use Google Images to check whether the photos they are using belong to someone else and check social media sites to ensure they really exist. You can also search for sentences and phrases online, in case they are using a known fake profile. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to just stop talking to someone.”
Charly Lester, an online dating expert and founder of The Dating Awards, offers tips on how to take caution when meeting a date in person.
6) Always meet in a public place
“Anyone you meet online is a stranger, and you need to remember that, even if you’re on a second or third date.”
7) Communicate with a friend
“Let someone else know where you are, and check back in with that person at the end of the date.”
8) Avoid drinking too much on a first date.
“While Dutch courage can be enticing, you don’t want to lower your inhibitions, and end up doing something you regret.”
9) Don’t go home with them on your first date
“Even if you’re getting on really well with your date, don’t go home with him or her on the first night. And remember that bringing someone home is no safer than going to someone else’s house. You’re still inviting a stranger into your home.”
10) Don’t be afraid to just get up and leave
“Online dating can be a great way to meet people you would never had chance to meet otherwise, but there are nasty people in the world, and online dating is just one of many ways you may come across those nasty people.
“Always keep your wits about you, and if you ever feel uncomfortable you should simply leave. Your safety is of paramount importance.” http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/10-ways-to-avoid-falling-victim-to-online-dating-predators-dangers-safety-a6915301.html
Many Private Investigation companies can help weed out possible “bad dates” through the use of cyber investigation. A Cyber PI can use many open source investigative avenues to insure your next date doesn’t turn out to be your next stalker.
At Kusic and Kusic Private Investigations, we have the ability to help those that need to feel safer with their on-line dating. Through the use of cyber investigation and cyber surveillance we can assist in putting both your mind and heart at ease.
Kusic and Kusic Inc. has been in the Private Investigative industry for the last 23 years and provides top quality services confidentially to both private individuals and corporations.
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